Life has many meanings, and at times we hear about it from people and abbreviate it to be the persona of it, making it our reality. We often accept others' definitions of what life should be without questioning whether they align with our own truth.
At times, not seeing through to the future and not being willing to listen to the apprehension of the situation may dwell us into being deprived of so many things where things could have been beautiful, where things could have been amazing times together.
There are so many memories to create, moments to live, experiences to withhold within, and aptitude to be amazed by the beauty of moments we insinuate in our lives. These moments are precious and should not be wasted on relationships that don't value them.
There could be many noisy voices around us, people having access to our lives. Their perceptions, experiences, and how they see things shouldn't be reciprocated into our lives just because they have access to you and you have history together.
Being in a couple, I have understood, is work. Caring and listening to each other could be a step forward. Not manipulating the situation to fulfill your own agenda is crucial. Such toxic people are very hard to communicate with and will always suck the energy out of you. They are never meant to support you or be there for you. They are always controlling, blaming, and never there to appreciate the real you.
Some people come into your life and they try to extract, harness, manipulate, and exhibit narcissistic nature. They see relationships as opportunities to take rather than to give.
No matter how beautiful memories you try to create, your efforts are always weighed against their immediate downfall. Your contributions are never enough, and your sacrifices are never acknowledged.
We need to seek meaning together in life. With just one viewpoint, the lack of experience and exposure can overshadow what you can build together. True relationships require both partners to be invested in creating something meaningful.
It's very hard to talk to people who are delusional and who live in the past in their own world. They're not interested in understanding your perspective or growing together.
These people never cared about you, always looking out for their own appreciation, their own agendas, their own unfiltered and unthought-of understanding of situations. They see you as a means to an end, not as a partner in life.
At times, I think: was this planned from the start of this relationship? Was this always meant to not last? The realization that someone may have entered the relationship with ulterior motives is devastating.
No matter how much you try to work on the relationship, if you never mattered to them, no matter what and how much you try to contribute, it would never matter in the other person's eyes. Your efforts are invisible to someone who doesn't value you.
At times, dealing with such relationships can feel like trying to fill a bucket with a hole in it. No matter how much you pour in, it will never be enough. The relationship will never be what you hope it could be because the other person is not invested in making it work.
Toxic relationships often exhibit certain patterns: one person does all the giving while the other does all the taking, communication is one-sided, and efforts to improve the relationship are met with resistance or indifference.
Recognizing that a relationship is one-sided takes courage. Walking away from it takes even more courage. But staying in a relationship where you're not valued is not love—it's self-sacrifice.
After leaving a toxic relationship, the healing process begins. It's important to remember that you deserve to be loved, valued, and respected. Your worth is not determined by someone else's inability to see it.
When love feels one-sided, it's not really love at all. True love is reciprocal, supportive, and growth-oriented. It's about two people building something beautiful together, not one person trying to maintain a relationship while the other person takes advantage.
The question is: are you ready to recognize when a relationship is toxic and have the courage to walk away? Are you ready to demand the love and respect you deserve?
Remember, you are worthy of love, and you deserve to be with someone who sees your value and is willing to work as hard as you are to make the relationship thrive. Don't settle for less than you deserve.
The most loving thing you can do for yourself is to walk away from relationships that don't serve your highest good. In doing so, you create space for the kind of love you truly deserve—the kind that is mutual, respectful, and life-affirming.